till death do us part

Her name is Marieah, she is 16 years old this month and I called her ‘baby’ … few times that my friend told me that, I been treating her like she is three and I baby talk to her all the time. 
People may look at it awkward but what you can do when you love someone so much. I have all my right to loves her, yes? she is my daughter.

Do you think that I am spoiling her?
No … I don’t think so. I know that she will grow up soon and she will have the whole wide world to treat her as a grown up. But she will always be my baby and all I want her to know that  I love her best. 

Come to think of this issues brought up by my dear friend that I am sort of spoiling her – ask Marieah herself, what happens if she fail getting up early to go to masjid for fajar prayer during school holidays … my son will tell you that the morning lecture will sure come complete with thunder and storms. 

I may loves her so much … but I also knew that she must positions herself rightly where she belongs in this world and most of all in the front of her maker.

This afternoon I ask Ibrahim. The elders of the four children … did I love baby more than others, the answer was no. I don’t love everyone the same way but I never loves anybody less … OK I am satisfied. We can be very busy sometimes, we have loads of things that we need to do but can we be certain that today is not our last day our precious daughter. Can any of you be sure?
Not that I take her everywhere – no. I need to work like everybody else. There are times that I have to tell her that I cannot visit her. There are things that I cannot buy for her but I can always love her, I can always talk nicely to her. I can kiss her all the time that we are together …. I can just yell to her while I’m writing this, telling her that I love her (she is in her room). I can call her when she is away – tell her that I miss her, tell her that I wish her all the best. Wish that she goes to heaven and remind her to bring me along … I can do all that and more. I have all the rights because I am her mother.

I may die tomorrow, she also may be gone … but today, now – she is all mine and I want to love her with all my heart. Oh, by the way – this may sound like she is my only daughter but Marieah have an older sister, Nadiah. She is just a year older than Marieah but she has different character.
Nadiah is a people’s people – she like everyone. She is smart, bright and very hardworking. If Nadiah is a queen because of caring and giving character, than Marieah is a princess.. Nadiah knew that I will always support and loving her. I like talking to Nadiah, she understand the world and all that is going on with it. we can talk about religion, politic and business. To me, she is wise. I like listen to her opinion. Also, I don’t think she envy the attentions given to Marieah. I miss them so much, every time too.  I miss kissing and hugging both of them, I believe this is a very good therapy. 

Oh and by the way … there is another apple of my eyes – Mahfuz. He is a year younger than Ibrahim. This guy … he didn’t say much. Never ask for anything, no opinion. Never say ‘later’ to any request. I think he never argues too … one thing for sure if we are 'gossiping' , he will always remind us nicely not to back bite others. And unfortunately unlike his elder brother who will call me everyday, three time daily - Mahfuz on the other hand  will never call me. Not unless it’s very important like – once he lost his laptop … yeah! I get a call from Mahfuz. And the other time – because the bank calls him up or informing you when he will reach the bus station for me to pick him up! Other than that I can rest assure that he is well and fine. And all of us knew that we are living the blessed life because of him …

Say that I am crazy … but I consider myself very lucky.  I love them so much, I can die! Ha ha … we have seen how some children just don’t listen to the parents. some will even go to the extend of argue in loud voice to them. In my line of coaching, I have parents come to me telling me that they are unable to ask their children to pray. I also saw with my own eyes how a mother just ignore her daughters calling ... and tell her daughter not to disturb her while she is busy with her FB and texting friends … oh! that is work I suppose. Just by witnessing this my heart breaks …

Actually you can decide what and how they want to groom your children, and as for me - I just want to love mine as long as I can … amen!  

Aisyah radhiallahu 'anhaa berkata:

Seorang ibu bersama dua putrinya menemuiku meminta makanan, akan tetapi ia tidak mendapati sedikit makananpun yang ada padaku kecuali sebutir kurma. Maka akupun memberikan kurma tersebut kepadanya, lalu ia membagi sebutir kurma tersebut untuk kedua putrinya, dan ia tidak makan kurma itu sedikitpun. Setelah itu ibu itu berdiri dan pergi keluar. Lalu masuklah Nabi shallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, maka akupun mengabarkannya tentang ini, maka Nabi bersabda :

"Barangsiapa yang diuji dengan sesuatu dari anak-anak perempuan lalu ia berbuat baik kepada mereka maka mereka akan menjadi penghalang baginya dari api neraka" (HR Al-Bukhari no 1418 dan Muslim no 2629)